About

The idea for Us Time came from a realization in my own marriage: we weren't regularly making time for the conversations that deepen connection. Like many couples, my partner and I love each other, but life moves fast. Between work, errands, and daily routines, it's easy to default to surface-level check-ins — "How was your day?" or "What do we need from the grocery store?" To feel closer, we wanted a way to reflect on how things were really going.

I'd read about the value of weekly relationship check-ins — taking time to appreciate each other, talk honestly about what's working, and gently surface what's bothering us. But we'd always forget, or feel unsure how to start. I wanted something structured but simple, something that could guide us through those conversations without pressure.

That's how Us Time began — as a small tool for the two of us. Every week, we'd each take a few minutes to answer the same four questions: what we appreciated about each other, what was going well, what had felt hard, and what we each needed to feel more connected. Then we'd tell each other our answers. Sometimes it would spark discussion for hours; sometimes just a few minutes. But every time, we felt closer.

The goal of Us Time is simple: to help couples feel more connected. Us Time is still early, but it's already made a big difference in my relationship. If you're looking for a weekly ritual to feel more connected, I hope it helps you too!

- Jack Blackwood, Us Time Creator